As genealogists we share a lot of information with one another. Our struggles to break down those brick walls, questions about where to look for a particular record, seminars and webinars that have broadened our horizons, the happy dance when we find something really good …. or break down a brick wall.
In this case I want to share a sad moment…… I lost my Mom, Patricia Anne Milne Gould Cornelius, last month. She was 91 yrs. 5 mos. and 9 days old. A very long life. She struggled with her health over the past 10 years and particularly over the past 5. She went peacefully and quickly. Something we all hope for.
Our relationship was complicated. Sometimes very good and other times not very good. But through all of it, I never quit making sure she was cared for and safe, and she never quit worrying about me. We did love each other very much.
My Dad died 25 years ago. I’d forgotten, I guess, how very difficult it is to lose a parent. Maybe we forget because it’s better than remembering.
I lost all interest in my research and writing my blog, until just this past week. Yes, there was that post about the colored pedigree chart of birth places, but that was a fill in the blank exercise, not something I had to create.
I’m not over the hurt yet, but I am ready to get back to my writing and my research. Ron and I are taking a two week vacation (planned since last year). When I return I hope to take that journey with all of you again as I explore the world of mine and my husband’s ancestors. I hope you’ll join me.
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Enjoy your vacation and your readers will be here when you feel like writing again. Take care.ReplyDelete
Diane. So sorry for your loss. When the time is right, the ancestors will come calling again. Enjoy your trip.ReplyDelete
Diane, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you & your husband have a wonderful vacation & that it is relaxing & rejuvenating. And, looking forward to hearing more about your family & discoveries when you return!ReplyDelete
Sorry for your loss, Diane. No matter how complicated a parental relationship is, losing them is devastating. I am glad that she went peacefully and hope that your vacation will be restful and rejuvenating.ReplyDelete
So sorry for your loss and take the time you need for yourself. We, your readers, will wait patiently for you to return being grateful for all that you do to share information with all of us.ReplyDelete
I am so sorry for your loss. My mother also died at the age of 91. It's never long enough, is it? We'll be waiting until you're ready.ReplyDelete
Sincere condolences. No matter our age or that of our parents, it is difficult to lose one. My almost 94 year old father recently passed away (my mother died 14 years prior) and it was just a bigger jolt because now they were both gone. My father and I shared a difficult relationship much like the one you described with your mother. I can tell you that it has now been almost two years since his death and there is still a sense of loss, but the only things that now come to mind are the good memories. Time is a great editor.ReplyDelete
I'm sorry for your loss, Diane, I've been there. Thank you for all that you do to inform, educate and inspire. I'll look forward to your return in my inbox and hope that you have lots of loved ones around you to bring you comfort as you grieve the loss of your mother.ReplyDelete
I'm so sorry for your loss Diane. It is difficult to lose a parent. Condolences to you and your family.ReplyDelete
So sorry for your loss. Looking forward to your return. Enjoy your time with family.ReplyDelete
Sorry for your loss Diane. Things like this just really take the wind out of us and we have to take time to heal and regroup. I hope you find peace and I look forward to seeing your posts again.ReplyDelete
To those of you who have taken the time to leave a comment about the loss of my Mom. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. It means a lot to me.ReplyDelete
I'm so sorry, Diane. It's so hard to lose our "first friends" in life. I miss your posts, and look forward to the return of your writing.ReplyDelete
I have just begun following your blog and the first thing I read was of your mother's passing. I am so sorry. Although one can think of our parent as being able to meet the ancestors, it is difficult for those of us left behind. Peace to you and your family. Lindley Roff, Kamloops BC, Canada.ReplyDelete
Very sad to read this post. It's always so hard to loose your Mum, no matter what the relationship is like, she is your Mum and you care. Enjoy your holiday and come back knowing that you did everything you could for your dear Mum.ReplyDelete