FOLLOW UP FRIDAY ~ WHAT HAPPENED TO THE YOUNG WIDOW OF GORDON FLOWER AFTER HIS SUICIDE?

On July 15, 2016 I wrote a blog post about the tragic suicide of Gordon Wallace Flower, just 3 days after his marriage to Lovina McNinch.  You can read the article here FRIDAY FINDS ~ Gordon W. Flower, dead, only 3 days after his marriage to Lovina McNinch–What was the cause of death?

At that time I had very little information about 16 year old Lovina.  However, I wanted to follow up and find out what became of this young lady who suffered such a traumatic event at a young age.

I found a birth record for Lovina.  The date and place match with other information I have located for her.

Michigan, Births and Christenings Index, 1867-1911
Name    Lovina McNinch
Gender    Female
Birth Place    Hope, Barry Co, Michigan
Birth Date    4 Dec 1880
Father's Name    Patrick McNinch
Mother's Name    Frances McNinch
FHL Film Number    1008314

It was in October 1896 that Lovina married Gordon Flower.  There are no known children born to the couple. The marriage only lasted 3 days prior to his death, however, I was thinking, perhaps they had gotten married because she was pregnant.  Gordon was 16 years older than Lovina.
 
Lovina didn’t wait long to marry again.  I located a marriage record for her to James K. Verrill on 10 Feb 1897 in Hastings, Barry, Michigan, only four months after Gordon’s death.

She is listed as being 18 years old and James as being 30.  Fortunately, I looked under his name and not hers, as the record is written Suveara Flower nee McNinch.  And that’s just how the indexer transcribed it.

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Marriage record for James Verrill & Lovina Flower nee McNinch - 1897

James & Lovina had their first child Miles James, on 22 May 1899.  Miles died at age 17, while serving as an Apprentice Seaman in the U.S. Navy.  You may visit his memorial on FindAGrave here #11625361.

Other children born to this couple were: Frances M. in 1901, Martha A. in 1904, La Vera M. in 1906 and Leslie R. in 1908.
 
Lovina & her husband James can be found in the 1900 census in Prairieville, Barry, Michigan with their one year old son, Miles.  James is working as a Sawyer and they own their home.   Of note is that Lovina’s previous father-in-law David Flower and a few of his children are living nearby.  There is another Flower family on this page (Homer & Mary). I don’t yet know how or if they may be connected to David Flower.



The next record I find for Lovina is the 1910 census, she is 29 yrs. old.  She and James are still living in Prairieville, Barry, Michigan.  Only now they have added 3 daughters and a second son to their family. James is working as a house painter, and they still own their home.

Excerpt from 1910 census for Verrill family

Lovina is next found in the 1913 Kalamazoo City Directory listing with James.  He is working as a Watchman and they live on the east side of Douglas Ave 2 north of city limits.

As I continued searching for records for Lovina, I sadly, located her death certificate from 24 May 1913.  At the age of 32 Lovina died, during or after some sort of surgical procedure.  The informant on the death certificate is her husband, James and her parents names are correct.  Their is an error in the spelling of the last name as Berrill instead of Verrill.
 


From there I was able to locate her memorial on FindAGrave #165353953.  She and James are buried together.  James never remarried and died in 1956 at the age of 92, leaving a legacy of 11 grandchildren, 17 great grandchildren and 1 great great grandchild.  On his death certificate it gives his wife’s name as Lovina.  He lived 43 years after her death without remarrying.  It was quite common for men to remarry after the death of a wife, especially with young children.  Their 5 children ranged in age from 5 to14 at the time of Lovina’s death.

I have not located an obituary for Lovina, but did find the following on her FindAGrave memorial.  This would appear to have come from an obituary.  I have checked both newspapers.com and genealogy bank with no success.

MRS. LUVENA VERRILL. Mrs. Luvena Verrill, aged 32 years, died this morning at the Borgess hospital following an operation for appendicitis. Previous to the operation Mrs. Verrlll had been confined to her home on Douglas avenue for a period of two weeks. She is survived by her parents, Mr. and Mrs. Patrick McNinth of Plainwell, her husband, three daughters, Frances, Martha and Luvera, two sons, Miles and Leslie, one brother, William McNinth of Alamo, and two sisters, Mrs. Ella Mills of Battle Creek and Miss Minnie McNinth of Plainwell. The funeral will be held Monday morning at 10 o'clock from the Truesdale chapel and burial will take place at the Plainwell cemetery. Kalamazoo Telegraph-Press May 24, 1913
Married Gordon W. Flower 5 Oct 1896 Hastings, Barry, Michigan

I would be very interested in exchanging information with anyone related to Lovina and her family.  Does someone out there have a photo of Lovina or James or their children?  Please contact me if you are connected to this family.

Happy hunting,
Michigan Girl

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SIBLING SATURDAY ~ Mary J. “Polly” Thorp (1841-1892) – Sister to my 2nd great grandfather

Mary J. “Polly” Thorp was born 30 Sep 1841 in Skaneateles, Onondaga, New York.  She is one of 6 children born to Monson Thorp, Sr. and his second wife, Lany Cooper. Monson had two older children born to he and his first wife Ann Eliza Armitage.

By the time Mary was born there were 5 older children in the household, two more would be born after her.  The names of the children were: Ann Maria (1830-1903) and Wallace Walter (1833-1913) both born to Monson and his first wife Ann.  Horace Henry (1836-1907) – my 2nd great grandfather, Lucyette (1838-1866), Stephen B. (1840-1871) Mary (who we are writing about today), Edith Eliza (1843-1915) and Monson Jr. (1847-1939).
 
All of the children were born in Skaneateles, Onondaga, New York.  From the census records it is stated that Monson’s occupation was Wagon Maker until 1880 when he is listed as a Fisherman. I also have newspaper articles stating the Monson was an Overseer of Highways in 1841, a member of the Horse Thief Society in 1854 and he ran for Constable in 1855 and was enumerated as a Constable in the 1870 census.

Mary, it seems, grew up in a household with 7 other children and a father who worked all his life to provide for his family.  I’ve looked at all the census records and I cannot locate any kind of a street name in order to see where they might have lived in Skaneateles.

Skaneateles is a town located in the northern central area of New York state, west of Syracuse.  The city is located at the northern tip of one of the “finger lakes” in New York.  I wonder if the children in the Thorp household spent time ice skating, fishing and enjoying the surrounding lakes.



Mary “Polly” Thorp married David Preston Flower before 6 Jun 1860.  That’s the closest I can come to a date for their marriage.  She would have been 18 at that time.  They are enumerated together, with the last name Flower in an 1860 census, living with his parents and his married brother, Rodney, in Prairieville, Barry, Michigan.  I’ve not been able to locate their marriage record.  Their first child, Alice was born 28 Jul 1860.  This couple went on to have four more children; Gordon Wallace born 25 Dec 1864, Minnie born 14 Jan 1869, Etta born 23 Apr 1871 and Harriet “Hattie” born 9 Oct 1876.

David is listed as a Farmer on each census I have for this couple.  And, Mary is a housewife.

Here is the 1870 census for this couple.  Of note is the SURDAM family living next door and another FLOWER family living close by.  The Surdam family is Mary’s sister, Edith and her husband George B. Surdam.  The other Flower family on the page are David’s father, Horace, mother Hannah and brother Rodney.
 
NOTE:  Always remember to look at every entry on a census and check the pages prior to and after the one containing your ancestor.
 

I don’t know much more about Mary’s life.  Was she happy?  What was she a good cook, a good seamstress or did she excel at gardening?  Did she like to read or write?

One thing I know is that all 5 of the children I know of, lived to adulthood.  Alice the oldest went on to marry first Fred B. Draper, who was killed by a tree limb falling on him, just two years after they married.  Alice next married Andrew J. Smith.  She lived to the age of 73.  Minnie the next oldest daughter married Frank B. Morris in 1899 and she lived to age 67.  Etta married Horace J. Gilbert in 1896 and she lived to be 88.  Hattie, the youngest daughter never married and lived to the age of 96.

The only child I didn’t mention above, was David and Mary’s son, Gordon Wallace Flower.  He married on 5 Oct 1896, Lovina/Sovina McNinch.  Gordon was 31 years old at the time and Lovina was 16. Three days after the wedding, which took place in Hastings, Barry, Michigan, Gordon committed suicide by overdose of morphine.  Why did he do that?  You can read the story about Gordon in my blog post Friday Finds – Gordon W. Flower, dead, only 3 days after his marriage.

Mary was not alive when her only son killed himself.  She had died on 16 Apr 1892 at the age of 50.  Her cause of death was the dreaded “consumption of the lungs.”  That was such a common cause of death back at that time.  Could her influence have changed the outcome for her son, Gordon?

Here is the entry on the death register for Mary J. Flower


Transcription:  Page 62 of the Return of Deaths in the County of Barry, State of Michigan.  Record: 111; Date of death - Apr 15, 1892; full named of deceased – Mary J. Flower; female; white; married; age 51 yrs. 6 mos 15 days; Place of death – Prairieville, Mich.; Disease or cause of death – Consumption of lungs; Birthplace – New York; Occupation – Housewife; Parents names & residence – Munsen & Lana Thorp, New York; Date of record – June 7th 1893 John E. ______, Clerk 

Mary & David are buried together at Cressey Cemetery in Prairieville, Barry, Michigan.  You may visit Mary’s memorial here #17590528.

I always think about the photos that were probably taken of our ancestors.  The invention of the camera encouraged most people to have at least one photo taken during their lifetime.  I sure wish we could find all of them.

If you are connected to this family or have any information to share, I’d enjoy hearing from you.  If you have any corrections to this information, I’d welcome your input.

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Happy hunting,
Michigan Girl

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